3 Ways To Overcome FOMO And Feel Awesome Instead - Poor Little It Girl

We all have heard of FOMO. Fear of missing out. Usually, it happens when you’re friends/family are out doing something awesome and you, instead, weren’t able to be part of it. It sucks. It a feeling of jealousy and depression and also a bit of anxiety. For some, it’s a momentary feeling that goes as quickly as it came. For others, it lasts for hours, days, even weeks. I’m not a scientist but one thing we can all agree on: it’s a sucky feeling.

I have an amazing group of girlfriends. Most are from college, and the rest are friends of friends we’ve “initiated” into our group. They’re all amazing, successful, kind, and a hell of a lot of fun. Annually a bunch of us get together for a big trip. You may remember earlier this year we did Cartagena, Colombia. Sure we’re in our 30’s (and a bunch of us are married and/or have babies) but we always make time for each other.

Currently, a big portion of that group is en route to France to celebrate another friends wedding. They’re heading to Paris, Bordeaux, and a bunch of other places for the next ten days or so. They’re renting a stunning house right on a vineyard and well…no doubt it’s going to be a trip for the books.

While I may not be going on the trip, I’m still on the group text with my friends as they’ve been counting down the days till your planes take off and I’ve helped vote on travel outfits and wedding guest attire. It’s great to still be part of the “experience” even if I’m not packing my bags.

So why didn’t I go? There are a lot of reasons, but the big one is, of course, money. We just bought a house, and the expenses that go with that are insurmountable. It’s kind of insane. Between serious plumbing issues, we also had cosmetic updates like some furniture…those credit card charges add up in a big way. So adding another $2k to my debt (plus another $2k for Adam coming as well) we decided it was a trip we had to say no to.

This is just my most recent case of FOMO, but it’s something I have dealt with my whole life. From elementary school watching my friends play without me, to weddings I couldn’t afford to attend or other trips I wasn’t invited on. The FOMO sinking feeling is the worst. But it doesn’t have to be all terrible.

Three Ways To Overcome FOMO and Feel Awesome

It’s about you, not them.

It’s important to remember that your FOMO is all on YOU. And it’s not your friends or family members fault that you feel a certain way. You have to take accountability for your own feeling and actions. Take a step back and remember that the FOMO feeling you have is all in YOUR head because you created it…no one did it to you. So deal with it and move on.

Be thankful you have a trip to even miss!

If there’s one thing that always snaps me out of the haze of a FOMO feeling is that I am SO incredibly lucky to have the group of friends I do. Sure, we live all over the country and don’t get to see each other as often as we like, but that’s OK. When we do get together, it’s like no time has passed at all. I know a lot of people (because they’ve told me) that wish they had what I had in this big group of girlfriends. I’m SO incredibly lucky and thankful for all those women. And I’m proud of all of them being so successful they can do amazing adventures like this. It’s rare, and it’s pretty freaking awesome!

Pretend you’re there.

Ok, I know this one sounds weird. But listen out. So obviously all my friends know I couldn’t go to France because I couldn’t afford it at this time. But what can I afford? A delicious French dinner with my other girlfriend who couldn’t go (she has a better excuse, she’s pregnant!). We set up a plan to grab a yummy meal at one of our favorite French restaurants together while the rest of the group is gone. It’ll be fun to have a great lunch with a good friend, but we’ll also be able to FaceTime the group and cause a scene. Which is what we do best, ha!

Do you deal with FOMO? What are your tips to dealing with it and making the most out of your situation? Leave me a comment below and let me know!